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Sexual consent

Sexual consent is agreeing to sexual activities that are mutually desirable, legal, as well as enjoyable and satisfying. If your partner says “yes” then you have consent. Remember for every sexual activity you should activity seek consent.

Consent is an active, willing, sober, verbal, enthusiastic “yes!”… not the absence of a “no”.

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Consent 101 by Laci Green, Sex etc.

Giving and receiving active consent:

  • Communicate your dislikes verbally and firmly, including saying “no”
  • Let your partner know how you feel. Communicate your expectations clearly.
  • Listen to and respect your partner’s wishes.
  • Ask if each level of intimacy is OK. You want to hear a verbal “yes” without coercion.

Even if your partner wears clothes you perceive as sexy, this does not necessarily imply a desire for sex. It is your responsibility to seek clear, explicit signals from your partner, and to respect your partner’s wishes at all times.

For some ideas about how to actively seek consent click here

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What is consent? by Dr Doe, Sexplanations

Rules to remember:

  • If your partner does not respect your wishes, then leave immediately.
  • Your sexual partner/s have the right to say “no” at any time – you need to stop immediately.
  • Sexual activity that escalates to a certain point does not imply consent to go any further.
  • If your partner freezes or does not respond, stop. This likely means your partner doesn’t want to go further.
  • Never presume that silence or lack of resistance means consent.

Alcohol and other drugs… and sexual consent

Alcohol and other drugs reduce your ability to:

  • Make rational decisions.
  • Communicate clearly.
  • Understand sexual reluctance.
  • Understand the consequences of your actions.
  • Notice signs of danger.
  • Protect yourself.

Alcohol and other drugs can also impair your partner’s judgment and willingness to respect your wishes. Eighty-four percent of acquaintance rapes involve alcohol. If you limit your consumption of alcohol in situations where sexual activity is likely to occur, you will greatly reduce your risk of sexual coercion, sexual assault, and rape. If you choose not to become intoxicated with strangers, you will also reduce your risk of sexual coercion, sexual assault, and rape.

An intoxicated partner cannot consent legally to sexual activity. Respect your partner’s wishes even if he or she is intoxicated. A partner’s intoxication is not an excuse or a legal defence in cases of rape and sexual coercion.

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She asked for it… victim blaming by Laci Green, Sex etc.

For more information about sexual consent visit:

Reach Out – what is sexual consent?


For more information about sexual assault visit:

If you were sexually assaulted there is support for you. In Western Australia please visit:

Sexual Assault Resource Centre who offer advice and information.

If you were sexually assaulted as a child or underage young person, you can find support from the National organisation:

Bravehearts who offer help and advice.


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Sex and the law

It is illegal to have any sexual contact with a person with out getting their consent. If a person is tricked, threatened, drugged or intoxicated – they cannot consent to sex, regardless of their age. Even if consent was given at the time – it is not valid or legal. Providing someone with alcohol or …

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How to seek active consent

Make sure you get consent throughout any sexual activity and that it’s not just a one off thing. So every time the sexual activity changes ask a question – such as going from kissing to groping, from groping to a hand job, from a hand job to oral sex etc. Here are some suggestions about how to ask …

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